These days are such sweet days. Life at home with my boys is such a wonderful reality to find myself in. No, not every day is easy, but there are always moments of good. Logan is getting to the age where he both irritates and delights Tyler. He is on the move now and is constantly going after whatever it is that Tyler has deemed his most prized possession that day. I'm always hearing "no, Logan! That's mine!" and we are having many conversations about both sharing and also being able to have special toys that are just for Tyler or just for Logan (like a loved stuffed animal). There are also more and more moments of laughter between the two of them and Tyler is cautiously testing the water of LIKING his brother. He will play peek a boo for a few minutes or request to be seated next to Logan. Logan loves to mimic Tyler's sounds and this becomes the source if many giggles. I tell Mitch often that I so hope our boys grow up to be best friends. He cautions me not to push that on them, but to let it develop on its own. My husband is as wise as I am controlling :). Instead I pray every day for a good relationship between my boys. They don't have to be best friends, but I pray for mutual respect, understanding, individuality, and a solid closeness.
What are some values you are building into your family, either intentionally or unintentionally? Mitch and I have been talking about this in the evenings after we put the boys to bed. There are a few very important things we want to have in our family. The first is that we both model a solid relationship with Jesus. I never want my kids to question if I know or love Him. The second is modelling a solid loving marriage. This doesn't mean we hide all of our arguments, but I also want our boys to see our love, be it through the respect and gentleness we try to extend towards each other, or through silly hugs in the middle of making supper, or our togetherness with which we try to parent.
This stage of life is so much fun, and is so important. We are forming the foundation on which family is built and the value and beliefs we stand on. Praying for wisdom every single day!
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This might sound like a strange value, but we try to instill in our kids celebration for others by experiencing life as 'unfair'. That means we intentionally don't keep everything even. Sometimes one gets a special outing for Timbits, sometimes another gets a turn to pick a TV show when one doesn't. I think there is a temptation to keep everything 'fair' between siblings, but I wonder if that's really helpful? We want our kids to be able to notice their jealousy, but to move past it to celebrate that which the other sibling experiences without feeling threatened or unimportant. I want them to be excited for each other's joy, not excited because they expect their own special thing next.
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